6 Things You Shouldn’t Do On A Dating Site

I suppose you could say I’m some-what of an online-dating veteran. I don’t have a lot of free time on my hands, and I still consider myself fairly new to Houston, so I like to use sites like OkCupid and Plenty of Fish to meet guys. I’ve had some great conversations with some interesting men on these sites, but I’ve also had my fair share of not-so-great conversations. So guys, here are six things you should avoid doing on online-dating sites based on my experience so far!

1. Don’t message a girl and immediately try to appeal to their ethnic background.

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Like… why are you attempting to tell me you love me? Would you say that in english to a girl you don’t even know? Yes I’m Asian, but there is more to me than that, even if it’s the most obvious thing about me. I promise you, there are more interesting things about me than the color of my skin. I, for one, do not want to hear an endless list of all the Asian things you love. I don’t message white guys and tell them I really love hot dogs and baseball. You may not realize it, but it’s rude and you sound crazy.

2. Don’t message a girl four times in a row if they haven’t responded to you yet.

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It’s creepy. If you did that in the real would, you might get a face full of pepper spray. I especially hate it when each message is angrier than the last. I’ve had some pretty rude guys message me because I never responded to them, calling me names, and asking why I couldn’t be bothered to reply. Truth is… the average woman on OkCupid gets anywhere between ten to fifty messages per week. I probably log in one or two times per month. Let’s put aside the fact that I don’t have time to be thoroughly reading each of the hundreds of unread messages waiting for me in my inbox. What made your message so special that it stood out amongst the rest? Don’t be offended when you don’t receive a reply – it’s not personal!

3. Don’t use the same opener for every girl, because – believe it or not – not all girls are the same!

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I don’t know how many messages I’ve gotten that start with “You have a great smile,” and I literally don’t have a single picture uploaded where I’m actually smiling. On the flip side, I also hate it when guys message me telling me I should smile more.

 

4. Don’t fill your profile with pics of you with your ex-girlfriend.

Everyone has a history, and maybe it’s the only picture in which you like the way you look, but if I see a picture of you with some girl, I no longer care about how much you love long walks on the beach. I’m just going to be wondering who that girl is. Even worse is when the caption blatantly identifies the woman as your ex-girlfriend. I need to be eased into your baggage, not whacked in the face with it.

5. Don’t be lazy.

You’d be surprised how many profiles say something like “I hate writing about myself, just hit me up if you want to get to know me.” That just screams “I’m just here for hook-ups, so you don’t really need to know anything about me.”

6. And finally… Say NO to dick-pics!

Just don’t. There’s nothing sexy about a penis, no matter what size or color it comes in. There is no power in the penis. I’m not going to look at a picture of your willy-wonka and think to myself “OMG I NEED TO KNOW THIS PERSON.”

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  • polarbelle

    December 1, 2015 at 3:06 am
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    oh man, the things people have to worry about in dating now!! yikes!

  • Destany

    December 1, 2015 at 10:13 am
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    So glad I'm not in the dating scene!

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    December 1, 2015 at 12:20 pm
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    That message on "cosmetology" cracked me up! Some men!!

  • Amber

    December 1, 2015 at 1:44 pm
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    That's hilarious!! But, also true and somewhat cringe worthy. Good luck! ;)

  • Chelsea

    December 1, 2015 at 3:50 pm
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    Hahahah this is hilarious! I would be so creeped out by the guys that send several messages like good ol' William.

  • Allison @neversaydiebeauty

    December 1, 2015 at 5:33 pm
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    OMG, yikes. Funny but depressing if that's what's out there. All the best!

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    December 1, 2015 at 6:55 pm
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  • PrimeBeauty

    December 1, 2015 at 9:19 pm
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    Great tips!

  • marciaf

    December 1, 2015 at 11:13 pm
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    I love this post. I so would not want to be dating now and going through all this online stuff.

  • Anastasia

    December 2, 2015 at 12:04 am
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    Man, I remember when I was single i checked out a couple of those dating sites. People are awful!

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    December 2, 2015 at 1:32 am
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    So many things I'm glad I don't have to deal with!

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    December 2, 2015 at 2:38 am
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    This is why I told my husband he's never allowed to leave me! lol! Good advice!

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